Ripples
When I was younger I wanted to be like my mother. I thought she was the most beautiful and fancy woman in the world. Before my tomboy years, I remember stepping into her closet and running my hands across all her pretty clothes, I would stick my little pudgy feet in her high heel shoes and daydream in the mirror, and sometimes, if I was being extra bold, I would get into her Mary Kay. I didn’t like lotion back then- my dad would slather us with Johnson & Johnson’s all the time and I hated it, he swore by it– but my Mom’s Oil of Olay was a lotion that I didn’t mind. It smelled wonderful, it smelled like the most elegant womanly woman in the world— and I loved it!
There are some things I do like my parents, there are actions of love that they have shown me throughout my life that have stuck with me. I always say I’m trying to do my best to raise good humans, I want to instill values, kindness, respect, and love for others in my kids. Often times parents do not give themselves the credit they deserve. We’re doing a good job and guess what, they notice! I see me in my kids, a lot! They do little things that make me smile and think, “Dean, you’re doing alright.”
Ripples of Kindness
This weekend they did it again, they WOWED me with their hearts, their kindness, and their love for others. For starters, all three of them took such good care of me when I wasn’t feeling well, and that was super sweet. But there are two other stories I want to tell you about.
While out for a quick drop in at the grocery store for something easy to cook for dinner and cough drops on Friday afternoon with my 13-year-old daughter, we saw an action figure marked down 75% off on clearance. Now obviously my 13-year-old daughter isn’t into action figures, but she thought we should get it. Her reasoning for wanting to purchase the action figure made me extremely happy, she wanted to give it away in a toy drive. “You know Christmas is coming, we could donate it, Momma.”
Same Friday, Different Kiddo
Later on that very same Friday, my newly 10-year-old daughter asked my husband and I if we could go supply shopping for Uganda on Saturday. We were both puzzled because we hadn’t heard anything about school supplies for Uganda, so we asked her what she was talking about. She told us a speaker came to their school, a man who travels around the world, he went to Uganda and they need school supplies. The emotion in her voice and in her face as she told us more was contagious, she was fired up to help and so were we.
Saturday we headed out to Michael’s and bought a few supplies there. When we got back home my daughter ran upstairs to get her old backpack (she just got a new monogrammed one for her birthday, this month) and put the supplies in it. She then turned to us and said, “The kids in Uganda don’t have very many books. Can I please give them some of our books?” Umm yeah! Give ’em all the books, you sweet little creature!! I didn’t say that, but boy that’s how I felt. She just made me so proud. My daughter filled the backpack with books and came down and began to draw a picture for the children in Uganda. She was trying relentlessly to draw an elephant, because in her own words.. elephants are a symbol of peace.
I found this quote and thought it fit well:
Like a drop in the vast ocean, each of us causes ripples as we move through our lives. The effects of whatever we do – insignificant as it may seem – spread out beyond us. We may never know what far-reaching impact even the simplest action might have on our fellow mortals. Thus we need to be conscious, all of the time, of our place in the ocean, of our place in the world, of our place among our fellow creatures. -Margaret Weis
Maybe, just maybe, I caused this lovely generosity in my babies or maybe it was the acts of kindness from others. Parents, they’re watching. People, they’re watching! They are seeing us and hearing us, and they are mirroring us. They may even be getting into your Mary Kay as we speak. Is Mary Kay still a thing?
Let’s go cause ripples!
I want to remind you that I’m still doing my Kindness Challenge, please, please, please come to join me! I’m giving away some fun prizes to one kindhearted soul. 🙂 Your act of kindness does NOT have to be big or cost money.
Akaleistar
November 24, 2015 at 7:14 pmYour girls are so sweet, and it’s awesome that they are thinking of others! I think that quote perfectly sums up life 🙂
MrsA0K2001
November 25, 2015 at 8:48 amThat quote couldn’t be more perfect! I’ve read it over & over and thought DAMN Margaret you’re a philosopher & a wordsmith. She could totally say.. drop the mic 😀
I’m quite proud of those girls, I hope they always want to help others.
XOXO
Tamara
November 24, 2015 at 9:51 pmSuch gorgeousness! Love and awesomeness doesn’t skip generations very often. This is no fluke!
I love the action figure story. I think Scarlet would think like that too.
MrsA0K2001
November 25, 2015 at 8:49 amI think Scarlet would too! 🙂
Are you saying I’m love & awesomeness? 😀
XOXO
Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom
November 25, 2015 at 7:43 amYour girls are so very thoughtful! This is what makes this time of year so special, when we give and care about others.
Carrie
curlycraftymom.com
MrsA0K2001
November 25, 2015 at 8:52 amI agree this time of year is so special with people opening their hearts for others. I wish it could be like that all year long, but I’ll take all the kindness I can get. 🙂
XOXO
Nina
November 25, 2015 at 10:24 amMelt my heart! You must be a very proud mama. You’re definitely doing all right, Dean 🙂 What generous hearts your kids have!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 12:57 pmI’m so proud! My 10 year-old came up with a great idea I cannot wait to share soon. 🙂
Thank you, Nina, that means a lot!
XOXO
lisacng @ expandng.com
November 25, 2015 at 1:26 pmShe’s amazing! Which means you’ve been a great influence on her. Oh, just her generosity!!!! Today, I was complaining about the state of humanity on the blog. Your daughter has put my faith back in it. Maybe the next generation will be better than us. Hope they will!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 1:02 pmI hope they will too. I think it’s up to us.
Thank you for your kind words, Lisa!! You made my daughter and I so happy with your sweet words. 🙂
XOXO
Lowanda J
November 25, 2015 at 2:23 pmI can definitely see the rippling effect you and your husband have on your children. I love how your 10-year-old got so charged up just from hearing a speaker at school. And your oldest sees how one simple toy can bring someone else’s child some joy. Great job Dean! I know you must be proud of them!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 1:15 pmI’m so proud of these kiddos! They fill my bucket 🙂
I hope they keep the passion of giving and kindness for all of eternity.
Thank you, Lowanda!
XOXO
Karen
November 25, 2015 at 5:01 pmHow amazing is your daughter?! That’s so wonderful, it made me tear up to read how thoughtful and generous she is. Like momma, like daughter! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 1:22 pmThank you, Karen!! 🙂
These kids… sometimes they can drive me bonkers and then they do things like this… I’m just in love with them. 🙂
XOXO
gracielle
November 25, 2015 at 7:04 pmYour daughter is so awesome! What a beautiful little soul…just like her mama! Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, Dean!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 2:26 pm:::BLOWS KISSES::: Thank you, Gracielle!!
xoxo
Bev
November 26, 2015 at 1:25 pmI definitely think your kids are modeling their kindness after their mom! The other day I was thinking I need to be doing a better job of modeling for Eve the kindness I want to teach her. I am sure I learned a lot of it from my own parents!
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 2:36 pmThanks, Bev! I hope I’m being a good role model, sometimes I fail, I slip, I sink, I spout before thinking….
I’m sure Eve sees plenty of kindness from her Mama too!
XOXO
Aki!
November 27, 2015 at 1:38 amThat is so kind! I remember being impacted by things like that when I was in school. It’s such a lovely feeling that warms your heart.
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 2:39 pmThank you, Aki. I do love the feeling of giving, it is a warm feeling. 🙂
XOXO
Sonya
November 27, 2015 at 2:00 pmAwww…I loved reading this. You are creating some really awesome ripples and your little people are amazing. Good job mama 🙂
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 2:48 pmThank you, Sonya! 🙂
xoxo
Caryn
November 28, 2015 at 11:09 amThe ripple effect is really something to keep in mind. People especially kids often pick up on things we say without us noticing. Several years ago I was greeted by a 4-year old in my child’s daycare class. She asked what I did for a living and I told her, “I’m a writer.” Months later, I ran into her mother, who said that she came home from daycare and started writing more because she wanted to be a writer like Kyle’s mom (me.) It moved me and made me smile knowing this child found a passion for writing because of something I said. xoxo P.S. I TOTALLY loved Mary Kay. I even had a birthday party hosted by a Mary Kay lady.
MrsA0K2001
December 1, 2015 at 2:54 pmThat is such an AWESOME story!! I love that you gave that sweet little girl inspiration!! I hope she’s still writing, it’s so rewarding. 🙂
Keep creating ripples!
Mary Kay BIRTHDAY party- nice!
XOXO
Naomi
May 24, 2016 at 5:05 pmSo lovely. My littles are very little still but kindness and generosity are certainly two of the traits I hope they will demonstrate without mommy’s promoting later in life! And gratefulness… Such a huge part of being hapoy is being grateful.
MrsA0K2001
May 25, 2016 at 10:17 pmThank you, Naomi. 😉
I believe they’ll mirror your kindness even when you’re not looking.
XOXO
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August 13, 2018 at 7:50 amDean, this is exactly what I needed to read this morning. “I’m trying to do my best to raise good humans, I want to instill values, kindness, respect and love for others in my kids.” Too many kids are being raised to be competitive, to “get ahead,” with emphasis on grades, athletic ability, looks, trends, etc. Keep up the good work! #MMBH
Experienced Bad Mom (@ExperBadMom)
August 13, 2018 at 9:45 amI love this, even if it happened a few years ago. Sweet, sweet picture of you and sweet, sweet actions by your daughter! #MMBH