Blogging Is Like Dating

Blogging is Like Dating

 

 

It has almost been two decades since I have been in the dating pool! I married my husband when I was 20, we’ve been married for 13 years!  –Look at you trying to figure out my age, good for you doing math today 🙂 –  When you’re 20, you truly haven’t been in the dating game much, and with that, the thought of dating in 2014 gives me anxiety!  I mean, when I met my husband, he didn’t have the ability to Google me from his smart phone, of course he couldn’t afford a cell phone, but I’m just saying, things have changed immensely since 2000.

A week or so ago, I was watching Rachel Ray, she had a “dating expert” on her show, I was feeling a bit anxious for some of the ladies asking dating questions to the dating expert.  I don’t know why, I’m not even thinking of dating. I felt for some of these ladies because again things were SO different from when I was dating.  The dating expert, Matthew Hussey, gave WONDERFUL advice, and then it hit me!  Dating… IS LIKE BLOGGING!!!

There was a lady, {let’s name her Kim} on the show who asked Matthew why the guys weren’t staying.  Matthew had Kim give him an example of her dating conversations, that’s where she had some errors.  Matthew gave her a few questions to answer, her answers were quite vague and short- not too good when you’re trying to “date” someone.

Here are the questions & comments Matthew made to help Kim keep the boys coming to the yard.  {Just for fun maybe try reading these in a cute British accent like Matthew’s ;)}

• Favorite Movie & Why
• Favorite Place & Why
• Something New You Learned
• Bucket List Item
• Character Revealing Item
• Be In Demand

But why is dating like blogging?

Matthew shared the BEST ADVICE!

1. Be yourself
2. Share yourself, show your personality!
3. Don’t talk about your exes… or in our case other bloggers or blog relationships that went wrong
4. Don’t be vague!
5. Be in demand, show you’re sure of yourself.  He didn’t mean be stuck up, but be confident!

I’ll give you an example:

Favorite movie and why? Bridesmaids, because it’s funny. <– WRONG, WRONG, WRONG! For starters that’s boring, as well as who realizes your personality with such a brief explanation? When you’re blogging you are receiving a small window to keep the readers engaged, sale yourself or someone else will.  No, they won’t sell you, but they’ll sell their blog post with a nice shiny bow. Let’s be honest, in the blogging world you can post something today and somebody has already or will post a similar post, but how they blog it may make the difference. 😉

Can you imagine how boring that date would be?  Do you like movies? Yes. Okay, what’s your favorite movie? Forrest Gump.  Why? It’s good. <<<BORING!

Another example:

Where’s your favorite place and why?  Let’s say your favorite place in the whole wide world is Disney World, you wouldn’t say because it is fun.  Who wants to go to Disney World because you said it’s fun?  Instead, let’s try this. Top 10 Reasons I love Disney World, and since you aren’t really able to show your excitement, because sometimes your tone doesn’t transfer, use PICTURES. Pictures can assist when blogging, but not just pictures, your best pictures.  On your list however DO NOT say fun!  Tell your readers a story, make us a part of your memory, we want to connect with you!♡  And your date does too 🙂

 

SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!

When Matthew said, “Share something new you learned”  I loved this.  Did you learn a new recipe, tip, or life hack you think others would enjoy or could use?  For instance, Becca, from My Crazy Good Life , shares tons of AMAZING tips! Becca, shares blogging tips, iPhone tips, and even helpful life hacks.  One of her tips that rocked my world has to do with chicken tacos!  I’ve been making chicken tacos FOR.EVER, so when she shared this new hack she learned… MY MIND WAS BLOWN!  Now, whenever I make chicken tacos, I think of Becca. 😀 (I STILL DO YEARS LATER)

Who are you?

You don’t want people to come to your blog and NOT hear your voice.

 

In this case be Simone 🙂

When you’re dating, your date doesn’t want to hear about your exes!

When you’re blogging, bloggers don’t want to hear you throwing shade on your blog or theirs! DON’T DO IT!

Be in demand!

Matthew’s example:  “I like the way you approached me, other guys do it like this___” Do you see what he did?  He gave a compliment, but also let the guy know, you’re not the only one 🙂 Gangsta!

Here’s what you can do, be sure of yourself! Don’t get cocky, because>> Bye, Felicia! The blogging community is filled with support, but the minute you start getting too big for your britches… nobody wants to support that. #SorryNotSorry

When Matthew and I (because we’re best friends now) speak of confidence, we mean share your work and know when you did a good job, it’s okay to be proud.  Are you proud of a post? Yes? Awesome, share it with others!  Chances are they’ll share your awesome work too. 🙂  Link your good stuff within your posts, somebody may not have seen it.  Also, compliment others’ works you enjoyed.  Thank yous are always appreciated!

Now, that we’ve got this established, I still don’t want to date, but I want to blog SO hard 🙂

Do you believe blogging is like dating, a little?

XOXO