I Just Have To {Domestic Violence}

Okay, this post was NOT a planned post, instead this is a post of passion, so forgive me for my hastiness and possible adult language.  I’m furious. You may be tired of hearing about the Ray & Janay Rice’s situation, but we NEED to talk about it.  Domestic violence is unacceptable… period!  I’m a huge football fan, this is not a football issue, this is a people issue.  Why not discuss us?

These are the comments that are driving me crazy:

“She hit him first.” Okay, maybe she did “hit” him first, looks more like a swipe not a full out TKO.  Yes, she should NOT have put her hands on him, but Janay Rice is nowhere near Rice’s weight class, the WBO would not even think to put the two in a ring together.  Morally, I do not understand where Rice thought it was okay to hit his fiancee and the mother of his child.  Let’s put this in perspective, shall we…

Mom swipes dads arm, well she swatted at Dad, “Go on dad knock her ass out!” <–Is this what you’re saying?  Insert daughter, sister, or cousin, does this change your perception?

“He didn’t knock her out, it was the elevator rail.”  You’re right! What were we thinking… stupid elevator, let’s all go on about our day.

“She forgave him, so should you. Move on.”  Exactly, let’s just let that one go, shall we?  Let’s forget that violence is unacceptable, and that there is a little girl who could possibly see  more than us.  Who cares?  You should care, again this is a people issue! The problem here is that we don’t talk about it, and we’re not educating our children the way to love correctly.  If we keep sweeping these types of incidents under the rug, we will only see history repeat itself.

However, it was Janay Rice’s statement that hit a nerve with me: 

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend. But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that (the) media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass of for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

 

This makes me sad.  All I can hear in this statement… “But he loves me.”  Janay, people are talking because they care.  Well, I think the majority of people are talking because they care.  Many of us have known someone who was abused emotionally or physically, those scars do not leave, and sometimes… the innocent bystanders take on the biggest scars.  In NO way should you be embarrassed, you didn’t knock yourself out. I hope for you and your family’s sake things are better, and the two of you can make marriage work and be happy, truly happy.  You don’t want our opinions I get it, but many women and men didn’t want people’s opinions, and unfortunately unlike yourself, they are unable to post their thoughts on Instagram.  Instead, holding out to work things out was their demise sometimes by their aggressor and sometimes by their own handling.  I want to remain optimistic that things can work out but you see, I’ve seen things, and I know how that sometimes ends.

There is NO chivalry in a person who hits their spouse, drags her, and then taps her with his foot when she’s down, I’m just not sure this guy has conquered all of his demons….